Break The Chopsticks

Once upon a time, there was an old man who had ten sons. Most of the time, his ten sons always fought each others day by day. One day, this old man gathered ten of them, he gave one chopstick to each of them, told them to break it. They broke it easily. They felt very happy and said : “ This is a piece of cake!” Then he took out ten chopsticks, bundled them together, let them break them. This time, no matter how hard they had tried, the bundle of chopsticks couldn’t be broken.

The old man saw his confused sons, said gently: “Dear my sons, ten of you are like these ten chopsticks, if you are divided, you will have small power. If you are gathered, you will have huge power. Next time all of you have to gather, so all of you will success in everything you would like to do.”

After they listened to what their father said then they understood why their father told them to break chopsticks.

Dear my friends, no matter where we are, in family, in office, at school, if we are broken, our power will be spilled. Don’t put ourselves into pieces. We sometimes forget the words “TOGETHER WE WILL” . Because of power, position and money, sister will fight with her own brother. The relationship in the family becomes un-harmony. Love changes to fierce and hate. To save our own position in our work place, even we don’t realize it, we sometimes hurt our colleges’ feeling to get what we want to achieve. Yes, we have our own ego, but once we need to realize that we are human beings who always need others human being to socialize in the society. We should think any reaction before we take an action.

Ninie

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The Success Formula

As you know that successful people are much less than those are unsuccessful. They are in minority zone. You perhaps wonder why there are only a small amount of people who are categorized as successful.

Perhaps you wonder why many people in this world are not successful. As a proverb says, where there is a result, there is a cause. Those who are successful must have done something that unsuccessful people do not do. There must be differences between them.

The successful people always take action to achieve their desire and goals because they know that without action, all their dreams will be just an imagination. They have big dreams. They will never let everyone block their quest to find success. They are big dreamers but they do not forget planning and taking action towards it.

They also sacrifice everything and pay the price of success, so they deserve the success. No matter how far their dreams seem to be, they just continue and keep going and also carrying on their action until they succeed. They do not stop on their way. Once they start or begin, they will finish it.

The majority (unsuccessful people) knows the price for success, but they are not ready to pay it. They are also afraid of taking action in accomplishing their dreams. They live in their imagination without being able to enjoy their right to be successful. They do not believe that they have the capacity to be successful, they do not believe in themselves.

There is a simple formula of success I am about to tell you, but this is so powerful if you apply it. Once again, action will make all your dreams come true. By taking action, you are ready to get out of your zone to walk in the outside zone to achieve your success. The formula is as simple as A-B-C-D-E.

A : Action

B : Believe

C : Consistent

D : Dreams

E : Enthusiasm

The order of the formula is first you must have DREAMS. Dreams guide you on the right track and make you focus on it. Without them, you will go nowhere, you do not know where you want to go, and you do not know where your last destination is. It is like a sailor do not have compass when sailing.

Then you must BELIEVE that you will achieve success. Without strong belief, you are not going to be in peak performance.

Then you must take ACTION. When you take action, miracles happen. Your dreams are getting nearer and you are getting nearer to them.

The next is you have to be CONSISTENT in your action, make a commitment not to stop until you achieve what you desire. Keep going and fetch your success that is waiting.

And the last is always having ENTHUSIASM in every action. It will make you enjoy while you are completing your journey to success.

/Suhardi

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Your Magic Excuses

I believe that most people must be using their magic excuses for the reasons why they are not succeeding in achieving what they truly want.

They even justify and prove to themselves that their excuses seem real and true. It’s the limiting attitude that belongs to those who are not successful. They use their magic excuses to justify their own failure whenever they do not have a real reason. Whereas the real reasons for their failure are lying inside them. Everyone has these magic excuses to answer why everything runs the wrong way.

Perhaps their magic excuse is their low education, poor financial condition, zero amounts of money, their age and many more. Their secret excuse is one of the ways to avoid the reality without doing self-introspection and improving themselves. Moreover, they will not grow better because they do not want to take the responsibility for their life. They believe their excuses are lying outside and out of their control.

The simplest way to eliminate this secret excuse from being used is to realize that no matter how great or make-sense your magic excuse is, it is very common. Those who live in a life filled with success have dealt with it. And I believe and you must too, that there are many people out there in this world that have overcome and passed this situation and eventually succeed.

There are so many people who have been successful that was coming from poor family. There are many people who have been self-made millionaires where they had no money in the past. There are many people who have been successful persons at their very young or old age. There are also many people who had not been well-educated but be able to create an outstanding life that makes many of us jealous.

The important thing you need to know is realizing that those who have been successful never use their magic excuses for their failure. They take full responsibility and take control of their life, not life controls them. When unsuccessful person is looking for excuses, successful person looks for pathway of success.

/Suhardi

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The First Step

When The First Step is good and he keeps on his good work and stand on that way, there will be happy ending in his heart. It doesn't mean when he started with something not good then he will end up with sadness. We believe, as long as he still wants to change his own direction to be better, happy ending will not leave him alone. He will be very happy to follow him.

It's never too late when we still can breathe. We can change our whole life even it's only a second left of ours. The most important thing is we dare to change to be better and won't repeat what we had done in the past.

Guidance can tell us what to do and keep guiding us wherever we go. The key is always in our own hands. Take it or leave it, it's our decision. We can blame no one for that and regret always comes last. It will not show up at the first time but it will come after that.

When you have started something, even you are the Highest King in that Kingdom. You have to settle it to the end of the root. It's easy to throw it to the ministers' sides, but are you that kind of Highest? I don't think so. You can be better than that, even you are the best King of the time if you want to help someone in you become wise, tell him to see both side, the higher of him and the lower of him. Try to do something more to reach the higher but then feel graceful when he compares himself to the one lower than him. He may dream up high so he can be more successful than the higher, then it is time to be thankful to anyone when he compares himself to the lower. Because he will harvest what he had planted. If he had plants apple tree then he will get apples. If he'd planted wind, storm will be harvested. Each action will have its own reaction. Everything is created in couple. No one is alone.

DARE TO PLANT, DARE TO HARVEST

/Ninie

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There Are Miracles In Life

In our efforts to keep things on perspective, we human beings live in a skeptical world. We want everything to make sense and we tend to rely heavily on logical thinking. The purpose is quite simple - we want to be precautious. We want to carefully run our lives so as not to create unnecessary problems in the future. In business, it is very important to be reasonable to minimize risk. In daily life, we want to avoid disappointments from unfulfilled expectations. It is only human nature to want to be in control. As a matter of fact, there are many benefits can be derived from logical thinking:

• Convenience - logical thinking provides easy understanding of ideas due to the linear, structured and sequential nature.
• Replication - when we know how to generate the idea / concept, we can generate it again in the future, as much as others can generate it too.
• Fact based decision making - when making decisions, we want to make sure that we come up with the right solutions addressing actual, not imaginary, problems.

Nevertheless, there is an invisible power out there beyond logical thinking. Leaving out supernatural things, what would we say about serendipity, intuition, inclinations, like & dislike, charm/ charisma, love, interests, and others? In addition, a lot of times decisions are not based on logic. How many times do we use feelings in making our choices? Is it possible that we do it all the time? In business, we will not hire someone or buy something from people we don't like. In daily life, we don't want to do things we don't like, sometimes to the level of being unfair or detrimental. For instance: choosing to go out with friends than spending the evening with our parents.

Talking about feelings, there is something not logical in life that we really don't want to miss - miracles. Miracle is a hard to explain phenomenon, something which, under normal circumstances, should not or could not possibly have happened. But it happens anyway...

People don't want to believe in miracles because they want to keep everything in check. Then, when the miracle happens they believe it is a pure coincidence, a pure luck that they don't want to count on. However, can human survive the existence for so long if we only depend on things within the grasp of our minds? How can we explain compassion, how can we explain patriotism, spirituality, and others? What about defending your rights or fighting for your beliefs. There are things in life that cannot be easily explained or simply beyond the human mind. Even science has proven the existence of things beyond our normal senses.

In relation to miracles, sometimes good things happen to us without us having to make the conscious efforts, something that we should be grateful for. Yet, sometimes people don't want to believe their luck and try to run away from it. Examples will include celebrities who cannot handle their fame, especially when it comes by storm. We see how people who get rich too fast lose their balance and trip. But those are the most extreme examples. In daily life, when someone is being nice, we tend to assume a hidden interest. Can we take the person as simply being nice? Meanwhile, some people consciously or unconsciously mess up their lives for not being able to handle the good things. Some ruin their career for gambling or deny a promotion for fear of not being able to live up to the expectations. Men leave their faithful wives for bitches, etc. Therefore, some people actually prefer the bad than the good.

Why is it difficult for people to take the good things in life? We cannot accept the good thing because we don't believe that we deserve it. We don't believe that we are worth it. As a matter of fact, some people find it hard to be optimistic and find it easier to be negative. It may relate to the way we see ourselves - do we have enough respect and love to ourselves? When we respect ourselves, we respect our lives. It takes courage to be able to accept ourselves and be grateful for who we are. There are many things in life that we should be grateful for, and a lot of times they come in subtlest forms. It is the ability to see the miracles in life which makes us able to see the bigger power, the other dimensions that add to the richness of life.


/Rini Palupi Radikun

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Mind Of Success

Worry, frustration, confusion, depression and fear are all states of mind that make you difficult to achieve and block success.

There is no success in a mind with negative state. Peace and calmness in your mind is needed to set your positive state of mind to attain your success.

Normally you will find it quite difficult to manage and control your mind. Your mind just runs and flies up and down, right and left, in and out anywhere anytime without knowing how you can make it tame.

In meditation, you can achieve a level called peaceful and calm mind that is free of negative state of mind, so you are able to experience happiness, encouraging and attracting positive behavior. A negative state of mind only attracts negative feelings and behavior therefore it is a great barrier to great achievement.

With a negative state of mind, you will seldom or never experience happiness or any positive results you desire. Constant meditation trains the mind to be tamer, more cheerful and peaceful. This is a state of mind that is very crucial to achieving success. You will act very differently with a positive state of mind rather than you do with a negative state of mind.

The mind is like a power or energy station, sending out energy or power that is represented by your thought. These are then received by the subconscious mind that will create and gather all the supportive situations or people or even opportunities to assist and guide you to achieve what your thoughts and goals are.

So if you want to achieve or accomplish your goals and you do not truly believe you will be able to, or if you, with your negative state of mind, constantly think about the reason why you can't or why it's hard, then you will send the power or energy that will create everything that will support your thought to make it hard to accomplish. Whatever you think about will come to you in return.

This is the reason why you must eliminate all your negative state of mind or negative thought, and you need to entertain your positive mind. Positive state of mind will attract positive things to support you in achieving positive results. Blacklist all your negative thoughts, fire them all and employ only positive thoughts.

Negative state of mind never helps you to achieve success, but positive state of mind does.

Your negative state of mind can't encourage or motivate you, but positive state of mind can.

Your negative state of mind will never attract the results you expect, but positive state of mind will.

And it is your decision to employ a negative or positive state of mind. The power to choose is in you.

/Suhardi

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Facing The Failure

"People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I do not believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can not find them, make them ". George Bernard Shaw



Wise proverb says that failure is a learning process to go through. Without a failure, the name of success will never be found. Edison is a real example. After thousands of times a failure to discover electricity, he finally succeeded. The true winner is a winner who can tolerate the failure of experienced and strive to achieve success rather than surrender to the situation. In addition, success will be achieved if someone dared to take risks and not worry about losing / failure. "Failures are divided into two classes - those who thought and never did, and those who did and never thought" John Charles Salak.

DEALING WITH FAILURE

Be aware that:

1. Failure is a learning process. Should, reaction arising dikala failed, not blame someone - anyone else but the self through introspection. This method, will lead to:

* A deep desire to know "why" this failure occurred. Once known to cause the failure to find a solution to this do not happen again. "It is wise to keep in mind that no success or failure is necessarily final" Anonymous
* Standard reference materials as a basis for the future, failure can be minimized or not to happen again. "In order to succeed, you must first be willing to fail" Anonymous
* Success as a result of the want / dare to face the failure of the analysis / evaluation and repair. "Success is not permanent. The same is also true of failure" Dell Crossword

Indirectly, the failure also teaches us that the path traveled is the wrong path. All, depends on ourselves, to give up or move on. If you give meaning to the name at any time in the success of "only" would be a dream - dream would never be - realisirkan. "Yesterday's failures are today's seeds. That must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest Tomorrow's Success" Anonymous

2. Failure is one step toward success. Without experiencing failure, one would be difficult to determine next steps. With the failure, one will know for sure that this point is justified while the track was not justified (because it has never failed). Whether a failure will always be negative connotations or not, is determined by our attitude dikala deal. If faced with the connotation potitif attitude will be positive because of the improvement and vice versa. "Your failures will not hurt you until you start blaming them on others" Anonymous.

3. Failure does not mean the end of everything - everything. With experienced failure, usually will make someone more mature, and alert / introspective. Each step or action will be in "filter" over and over - time to avoid it - it is not desirable. "Keep in mind that neither success nor failure is ever final" Roger Ward Babson

Conclusion:

Failure is not something dreaded or avoided but must be faced. Through the failure, what would his name found success. Do not give up and surrender, that is the key to deal with failure. "When one door closes another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us" Alexander Graham Bell.

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